Idealist Champion

Based on some conversations I had with a coworker this week, I was interested to learn about the Keirsey Temperament report.  I took their basic online test, and was told I am an Idealist Champion.  Here is what the report said (some of this was so accurate, it made me laugh!):

Like the other Idealists, Champions are rather rare, say three or four percent of the population, but even more than the others they consider intense emotional experiences as being vital to a full life. Champions have a wide range and variety of emotions, and a great passion for novelty. They see life as an exciting drama, pregnant with possibilities for both good and evil, and they want to experience all the meaningful events and fascinating people in the world. The most outgoing of the Idealists, Champions often can’t wait to tell others of their extraordinary experiences. Champions can be tireless in talking with others, like fountains that bubble and splash, spilling over their own words to get it all out. And usually this is not simple storytelling; Champions often speak (or write) in the hope of revealing some truth about human experience, or of motivating others with their powerful convictions. Their strong drive to speak out on issues and events, along with their boundless enthusiasm and natural talent with language, makes them the most vivacious and inspiring of all the types.

Video Profile of an Idealist Fiercely individualistic, Champions strive toward a kind of personal authenticity, and this intention always to be themselves is usually quite attractive to others. At the same time, Champions have outstanding intuitive powers and can tell what is going on inside of others, reading hidden emotions and giving special significance to words or actions. In fact, Champions are constantly scanning the social environment, and no intriguing character or silent motive is likely to escape their attention. Far more than the other Idealists, Champions are keen and probing observers of the people around them, and are capable of intense concentration on another individual. Their attention is rarely passive or casual. On the contrary, Champions tend to be extra sensitive and alert, always ready for emergencies, always on the lookout for what’s possible.

Champions are good with people and usually have a wide range of personal relationships. They are warm and full of energy with their friends. They are likable and at ease with colleagues, and handle their employees or students with great skill. They are good in public and on the telephone, and are so spontaneous and dramatic that others love to be in their company. Champions are positive, exuberant people, and often their confidence in the goodness of life and of human nature makes good things happen.

People naturally confide in the Champion (ENFP). That’s why they make such good mediators, counselors, teachers, consultants, and reporters. Any position that outreaches to others can fit the Champion. They can be columnists, journalists, publicists, copy writers, advertising account executives. In the arts they can be character actors, cartoonists, art educators. If they choose jobs such as restaurateur, be sure that their business sites will be unique and designed for a particular type of customer. Don’t be surprised to see them as an inventor. This type of personality wants to experience the whole of life and may change careers more often than many other types. Says Charles, “I’ve had a number of jobs and when there is nothing left to create, I move to something new. I want my life to be spiced with newness, love, and joy.”

The Champion is usually a bundle of energy, but they can become exhausted if they are overloaded with work. They also will experience stress if their values and principles are violated and they see others in the company being hurt by policies that kill the human spirit. Then they become hypersensitive to what is going on around them. Facts become exaggerated. They have feelings of paranoia and may withdraw. To regain their equilibrium, meditation will help. Kindness and support by others, but not patronization, will help them get back to normal.

Los Toros – Brownsburg, IN

I realize it’s been a long time since I did a food post.  I have a few that I’ve been meaning to do for a while, but I just haven’t made the time.  This one just can’t wait though.  I have no pictures. In fact, I am simply going to paste the review I wrote for Urban Spoon.  Read below, and you’ll understand why I’m less than enthused…

WORST SERVICE EVER

My husband and I went to Los Toros with my sister, her husband and their two kids (4 and almost 1).  We were sat right away at 5:50.  There were diners at a few other tables, but it was not busy at all.  There were plenty of employees around.  We were given chips and salsa right away (which were very tasty – thumbs up for that), but no one came by our table to get our drink orders for almost 15 minutes.  He came to the table, didn’t greet us at all, just said, “Drinks?” and nodded at each of us to ask what we wanted.  He totally skipped one of us, so we had to practically shout to get him to turn around to give him the last drink order. When he turned, he looked so mad, I thought he was going to spit at us! I asked for water to drink with a lime wedge. He insisted that they didn’t have limes – just lemons.  I looked at him and said, “Really? No limes?” and he insisted again – just lemons.  Funny – we saw at least 3 people around us drinking margaritas with lime wedges perched on top of their glasses.  I accepted the lemon – I love limes, but let’s not get in a fight, okay?

We had our drinks and it took this waiter a good 15 more minutes to come back and get our food order.  There were two other tables near us now who had the same waiter, and we were all waiting for him to come get our food order.  By the time he actually came to ask us what we wanted, the kids at our table were getting restless and noisy.  Perfect.

He came to get the order, and I asked for a fajita quesadilla.  This is on the menu with beef or chicken as the meat options.  I asked kindly if I could have shrimp instead. (I have requested this substitution at nearly every Mexican restaurant I’ve ever been to, and have always been allowed with a small upcharge.) He stared blankly and said, “No. Beef or chicken.” I said, “You don’t have shrimp?” “No – just beef or chicken.” I call bull – there was an entire section of the menu dedicated to shrimp items! Okay fine – I changed my order to the chicken chimichanga (which was overfried).

The food was brought out in a decent amount of time (thankfully by a different server), and it was hot and mostly tasty when we got it.  The baby was really starting to get antsy though, so we were stuffing our faces to get out of there before he had a major meltdown. It took FOREVER to get a couple boxes and then FOREVER again to get our check.  I’m sorry – we didn’t tip.  We were FURIOUS.  I have never stiffed someone in my entire life.  I waited tables for a long time, and I know how hard this job is, but the horrible service we got was inexcusable.  We left the restaurant at 7:30 – after 1 hour and 40 minutes of frustration.  I will NEVER return to Los Toros.  NEVER.

Now – if you decide you want to go anyway, I will tell you what was good about our visit.  The restaurant was clean and the chairs were fairly comfortable.  The chips were warm and the salsa was delicious.  They were the best part of the meal!  Refried beans are usually a throwaway on my plate, but these were fairly decent also.  I was a little surprised by that.  The portions were a good size as well.

Still – good chips or no – I will not be going back.  There are plenty of other Mexican restaurants to choose from!

 

Perhaps this is a bit harsh – but that’s how furious I was about the service we received last night.  Restaurants need to realize that the quality of their food isn’t all that matters.  Good service goes a VERY long way.  I will choose a restaurant with mediocre food and great service over a restaurant with great food and bad service any day.

Useful. Beautiful. Joyful.

I like to shop.  I like to buy things – especially on clearance.  I like to think of moving things around in my house or buying new things for my house to make it prettier or more functional or whatever.  A lot of people do the same, right?

But lately that part of myself has been in conflict with the other part of myself – the part of me that craves simplicity, cleanliness, more money to give elsewhere.  Months ago Matt and I began to scour our house for things we didn’t really need any more.  We got rid of a ton of stuff (possibly a literal TON of things).  We sold them all at a yard sale over Memorial Day weekend, and made a good deal of money from it all.  It was a very successful purge and sale!

So someone tell me why I still feel like I’m surrounded by my things?  Why do I feel like I have another purge coming on?

I follow Paulo Coelho on Twitter.  Many years ago I read and loved his book “By the River Piedra I Sat Down and Wept” and I have a few other books by him that I want to read.  He tweets really insightful things, and I have enjoyed following him.  Last week he tweeted this:

Oh how that has been resonating with me lately!  I think it’s time to go through my house and REALLY get rid of things I don’t find useful, beautiful or joyful.

I think the same can be said about my spiritual life as well.  How many incorrect theological beliefs, painful memories, unfounded anxieties, etc. do I hold on to that aren’t useful or beautiful or joyful?  I know too many people who have held on to pain and anger for far too long.  These things have a way of growing in our hearts and pushing out all other thoughts and memories that might be useful, beautiful or joyful.  I don’t want that for my life.  I CAN’T have that for my life.  I want to make room in my heart and mind for grace and love.  Don’t you?

How much stuff do YOU hold on to that isn’t useful, beautiful or joyful?